A challenge this week was in looking at 5 emotions emotions/thoughts that typically paralize us from moving forward and realizing our dreams; i.e. keep us stuck in our comfort zones. Those 5 things are:
- Hurt Feelings
Most people when trying to motivate someone to move past these things will suggest overcoming the feeling, working through it, letting it go, etc. But, not the Master Key Experience, no, instead they suggested “using them as tools”. Wait…what? Huh? Tools? How in the world am I supposed to use fear, anger, guilt, unworthiness and hurt feelings as tools? How can these things help “Unlock Me” and help get me to manifest my PPNs and fulfill my DMP?
In meditating on these things this week and reading others’ comments in the Alliances area, I’m slowly begining to see how I can use these as tools.
- Anger– I start with anger because this was the easiest for me to make the connection.
- First, before, I go into how this can be a tool; I must note that I had an “ah-ha” moment on the webinar as it relates to anger. It was noted that sadness is an internalized form of anger. This was HUGE for me because often times I don’t “get angry” and sometimes I’m confused when I feel that I should be angry about something but, I’m “not”. However, in those times, I AM often sad. So, now it makes sense that in those times I AM ACTUALLY angry; I’m just internalizing it so it comes out as sadness. Of course, now the question I need to answer is “why am I internalizing the anger?” instead of facing it and addressing it in whatever situation that’s causing the anger. As I’m reflecting while typing it’s probably because of the confrontation that comes with it that I am avoiding. So, I get into my “comfort zone” (which is ironic because there’s nothing “comfortable or comforting” about it…those crazy peptides my cells are addicted to) and internalize the anger instead of confronting the issue and that leads to sadness.
- So, now, how can I use Anger as a tool? My first realization is using anger when I am actually angry and that’s the feeling that’s being expressed (as opposed to internalizing it as sadness). During these times, I often cope with the anger by either exercising or cleaning. When I do this then the anger becomes fuel to energize me more to push harder when I’m working out or to keep me more focused and energizes me to get through doing chores faster and therefore I get more done. Because I’m exercising or cleaning the anger and stress is being released and by the time I’m done I feel so much better.
- Fear– Fear I see myself using as a tool to help me grow. In a simple example, I’ve used Fear to help me be more outgoing and adventurous. I’m afraid of heights; mostly “low heights” like climbing a ladder or standing on a high balcony. However, I also get a little fearful at higher heights. So, I take that Fear and face it head-on by doing outgoing and adventurous things such as ziplining, riding roller coasters or skydiving. In these cases, Fear was a tool that lead to a more exciting, fun and fulfilling life.
- Guilt– I had some trouble identifying how to use Guilt as a tool until I came across a comment in the Alliance section. The person mentioned that she hadn’t been able to do a lot of the activities and exercises because of travel. She felt guilty that she had missed so much and that guilt pushed her to catch up on her MKMMA experience. That was my “ah-ha” moment for Guilt. Guilt does often push me to do more if I had promissed someone or myself something and hadn’t completed it yet or if I didn’t exercise one day then I may double up or extend a workout another day because I felt guilty.
- Unworthiness and Hurt Feelings– I’m still struggling with seeing these two as tools. I’m continuing to go into the Alliances section to search for comments surrounding these as well as concentrating on them in my Sit but, so far I haven’t yet observed these as tools. But, I’m still searching. I’ll be very interested to see how these are revealed as tools on the webinar in two weeks.